The Key to a Successful Marriage

It goes without saying that if you do not have a proper way to express your thoughts and feelings to each other, and you do not have a way to talk and listen to each other, then everything will eventually fall apart. In order to have a successful marriage, you must make yourself an expert in communication. You must try to understand what your partner is saying directly, and you must also try to analyze the implicit messages or desires. We should not expect our partners to sense our needs through intuition or by relying on some degree of divine inspiration. If there is a special collar that you would like as a gift for your birthday, point it out to your husband. This will save him the hassle of choosing and spare you both unnecessary pain. This method is effective in both ways. He might not want socks this year! Tell your partner what you want. Joe was a romantic type. He brought his fiancée flowers every week after their engagement, and he even sent her flowers every day of the week before their wedding. Finally, Emily, his wife, a completely unsentimental and practical person, spoke: “You know, Joe, that I really love you and I love that you want to bring me flowers, but in reality I don’t like flowers that much, and in addition, they wither quickly, so I feel like we wasted our money; "So I'd rather save it for a more permanent gift." If we want something, we have to ask for it. Fortunately, this is a simple example, but being able to express yourself on small matters will lead to open discussions on big matters as well. If we want something we have to ask for it. This may seem so obvious, but how many hurt and angry husbands come to counseling saying, “He should have known. . . », or «She should have realized. . . “. How should he have known? How should she have realized? Did you tell him or her?! From the book 44 Amazing by: Imona Braverman